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Millions of people are "e-dating" in the hopes of finding that perfect someone. Online dating services such as Match.com Match.com and love@aol.com are thriving as men and women post ads and photos of themselves in search of the perfect mate.

The one thing to watch out for is the guy or gal who may be a fraud.  This happens more than most people know, since most of the people who have fallen to one of these predators, don’t report it.  These people are good at what they do; I have seen fake driver license and some who were even willing to give a fake social security number.  There is not much you can do, but to have the person you are looking at given your heart too, checked out.  


There are other issues to be cognitive about, read below to learn more to be safer when you are using online dating sites.

Disadvantages and Warnings about Online Dating:

The Pitfalls of Email Courtship

First, don't believe everything you read. Most online dating services ask participants to fill out long questionnaires about themselves. Women usually put a lot of thought into these, but men don't. A man may indicate that his favorite movie is Jerry Maguire and he loves romantic walks on the beach. This will certainly attract women. But, in reality, most men would choose to watch basketball on TV over the beach walk, and Mission Impossible is a more likely contender in the "Favorite Movie" category.

Second, "Little white lies" on someone's profile may be harmless, but there are some creeps trolling the online dating services. If you're going to cyber date, here are some screening tips to help you detect Mr. or Mrs. Wrong:

  • Ask the person for a photo. If he or she doesn't send one, or keeps making up excuses, there's something wrong. Of course, if he has too many photos with his ad, that can be equally problematic.
  • Ignore men or women who write form letters or send only a "wink" or a "rose," or who write something like "you're sexy."
  • Don't answer email from men with "player" names, such as "MeTarzan."

A Word about Online Dating Safety

If you meet someone online, take it slowly. You may think that you know the person because you have been corresponding via email, but remember to use common sense.

  • Guard your anonymity. Most online dating services use a "double blind" system that protects your identity. Be sure not to include your last name, address, and place of work, phone number or any other identifying information when corresponding online.
  • Request a photo. Appearance can help you determine whether the person is someone you want to correspond with. If the person doesn't send a photo and makes excuses, stop corresponding with him.
  • Speak on the phone. While the golden rule for women is not to push the "relationship" from email to phone (let the man call you!), a phone call can reveal much about a person's social skills. If you decide to speak with someone on the phone, give your cell phone number or ask the person for their number. Also use telephone-blocking techniques so they can't get your number through caller ID. **Those that are out to scam for money are not opposed to spending time talking with you on the phone, so even though this is a good way to rule out some, it doesn’t rule out the ones that are out to scam you, we here at Pro PI, LLC have had clients taken for lots of money because they did not come to us first. So please use caution**
  • Meet in a public place. If you decide to meet, choose a safe place, such as a restaurant during a busy time. Tell a friend where you're going and what time you plan to return. Give your friend the person's name and phone number. Never arrange for someone to pick you up at your home or office. Take your own transportation. When the date is over, do not allow the person to follow you.
  • Watch for warning signs. If a person displays anger, tries to pressure you, gives inconsistent information about themselves (even age!), refuses to speak to you on the phone after you've established an email correspondence, something isn't right. Move on.
  • Protect yourself. If you feel uncertain about someone, get offline. If you're in a public place with a person, excuse yourself and call a friend from the restroom and ask that person to come and meet you. If you feel unsafe, call the police. Don't be embarrassed. Be safe.









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